The Bible says, “Love thy neighbor as you love yourself”. We clearly need to start with loving ourselves first because it would be a daunting task to love your neighbor and extremely difficult to appreciate and value them when you cannot value yourself.
The main reason a lot of people mistreat others is because they have a poor self-image or rather a low self-worth, this gives birth to insecurities. For them to feel good, they delight in putting others down, mistreating them, abusing and manipulating in order to feel empowered.
Studies have told us that most bullies are usually cowards on the inside. How true is that? Not too certain. Even so, one thing to note is that increasing self-esteem doesn’t warrant trying to make yourself appear better and more important than others. If you feel the need to do so, that’s a red flag of “low self esteem”right there.
So how do we increase self-esteem?
By learning to love and appreciate yourself, not because you are trying to prove a point but because you are whole within, complete and God actually fearfully and wonderfully made you. Therefore, consider yourself a person of value, worth and great potential to make a difference and leave a legacy in this world. The fact that you are alive means that you matter and you have a purpose to fulfill.
Knowing this, it’s important to take a better look at the mirror and see a person who has a lot to offer to this world.
Ever heard of the mirror exercise? The one exercise for building up your self love? Its simple but extremely powerful. Try this out with me for the next 30 days and share the transformation.
Talking to yourself in the mirror. How do we go about it?
- Every morning when you are prepared, give yourself some minutes for this. Use a private room/lock the door. Stare into the mirror for 2 minutes, the larger it is, the better.
- As you look into the mirror, confess good, positive and encouraging things about yourself. Count your blessings – what you have achieved and what you hope to achieve in the future. Tell yourself how strong you are and how stronger you will be.
- While still gazing at the mirror, tell yourself “you are brilliant, you are good enough, you are beautiful/handsome and a wonderful person.”
- End by telling the person in the mirror how much you love them. A simple “I love you” will be good enough.
The more you do this every day, the better you will feel about yourself and will start accepting yourself for who you are, you’ll feel better and develop a healthier self-image and have more self-love.