It is possible to think positively! Amidst all the negativity in this world, fear (mostly of the unknown), bad news, uncertainty, disappointments, criticism and judgmental attitudes, negative thoughts are automatically triggered.
Did you know that every thought you think about releases chemicals in the brain? This essentially means that hopeful thoughts will help you feel calm and happy while negative thoughts will make you feel stressed and sad.
Personally, I have experienced the power of negativity and the impact of what I bring my attention to. Sometimes we worry about things that have not yet happened, we wallow in the negative impact it could have on us and end up reacting even before it all rolls out.
One time my hubby got a job so far away from where we lived with my son. I got so worried that we would end up separated because of the distance. I actually made my mind believe that he was just trying to get far from us. It took a great toll on me, on my health and on my duties as a parent to our son. I was always edgy and angry. Fast forward and I can comfortably say that those months in the new workstation was our best and of course we were able to visit him regularly. Why then was I all worked up?
I must have been a slave to fear and this almost ruined my relationship with everyone around me. It often leads to destructive behaviors. This is because you see nothing good coming your way. You mind is made to believe that it is the end of everything.
Over time, I have learned the power of thoughts, someone once said, “As a man thinketh, so he is”. Negative thoughts will drain you to the negative side while positive thoughts will elevate you. Life is short(cliché but very true) and you do not want to spend your entire life in sadness. Thus the necessity to kill those negative thoughts and replace them with positive ones.
So now, how do we focus on the positive?
It’s not a crime to have negative thought but what you do with them determines your ending (whether happy or sad).
- Identify and label: It is good to know your enemy before you get into a fight. Identify these negative thoughts and their patterns. How do they come about? What circumstances bring you down to negativity? If you can write that down then you will be clear about what triggers these thoughts.
- Secondly, you do not have to believe these negative thoughts. You have the free will to choose what gets a pass into your mind. Ask yourself if these thoughts are even true in the first place. We say regrettable words and sometimes we might even end up harming ourselves unnecessarily. Make a covenant with yourself to always investigate every thought and choose what you believe and what not to believe.
- Talk back to these thoughts. If you discover that they are false, resist them and actually order them out. It may sound crazy but it is practical and effective. There is nothing wrong with choosing to have a positive thought or even being positive about the negative thought. You are the master of your thoughts, if you learn to put every though in check, it will not rule over you.
Always know that negative thoughts don’t really matter in the first place, it probably wasn’t true and didn’t mean anything about you. Accept that the reason you are feeling that way is because you have allowed your mind to listen.
My challenge : Guard your thoughts and your mind with all that you have. You’ll be amazed at the transformation.
“Thoughts have power; Thoughts are energy. And you can make your world or break it by your own thinking.” ~Susan Taylor